[clemsuder]

I know we all need support and encouragement, it is good that we have this forum to get our thoughts out there. But no one can encourage someone who has not made the effort to pick them selves up. You can not look at what other professional groups put out there they are seeking money and they need to try to convince people that sending that money will impact the people they supposedly serve in order to get that money. However, every survivor needs to find it within themselves to continue doing the best they can in order to find true encouragement. Forgive the professionals they think that they have answers to something they have no truly full understanding of, they think enough money will solve problems. On the other hand the truth of what you feel is only fully known by you and no matter how loud you scream or complain no one other than you can really feel it. Other survivors know that feeling of helplessness, but they also can be negatively effected by someone who should be an example of how to survive blaming others. All survivors must understand god gave you the ability to give power to anything you choose so that if you choose wisely you will have peace and can encourage each other to find pease. Jesus said it is not that enters you that corrupts you, it is what comes from you. Find your peace by accepting what’s is no one can change it but you can make the best of it.

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[clemsuder]

I have watched and listened to our attempts to help one another. It is sad that so many struggle with trying to get others to give them positive feelings. The truth that needs to be taught is that only each individual can determine for themselves what they can feel and WHY. The best we can do is make up our own mind to make each day the best it can be given our unique circumstance. If you want your day to be better you must find those who care enough to allow others to experience life and overcome their challenges, you can help them to overcome but they must choose the path.many times our caregivers and families are trying to force us to choose to overcome. How you interpret thier actions is your own. You ask for empathy but if you do not practice it yourself do not expect any in return. God gave you the day what you do with it and how you feel about it is up to you. Your circumstances  will not change till you decide to change them or, perhaps look at them differently.
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[clemsuder]

It is a shame that so many people do not know how to recognize grief. And the fact that it progresses along an anticipated path. It is still the individual that needs to become aware that what they are feeling is real for them, and others may not be aware of their struggles, or that a problem for them exists. The reality of life is that as much as we claim to be able to tell what others may be facing, we can not, unless they understand enough to tell us. It is not a weakness it is a fact. Do not allows your fear of what others may think or do to stop you from telling what is real to you.

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[clemsuder]

I am glad you decided to share your story with all of us. It can give so many the hope they need to pick up what is left to them and remember it is not what we can do it is the joy we can share with each other that is the real reward. Love is about helping each other do the best we can for ourselves as well as for each other. Do not fall into the trap of others expectations, but adjust your own expectations to what you can. Our father wants you to do the best you can with the gifts you have to raise the joy and quality of your life. Remember it does not have to be so deep or philosophical but most simple. Consider what god said to Adam and Eve, “Who told you, you were naked?”
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[clemsuder]

I know that even in the best of relationships intimacy when you think you are doing it for the other person is difficult,  to participate in intimacy in your relationship you must do it for yourself. If both participate for themselves but share the joy they give each other the joy of intimacy will be renewed. Making another happy can be a totally selfish act. The reward is the increase of joy for both.

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